Step out to what you want in Life…

How is life treating you? How are you treating life? Are you living the life you want?

Do you realize that each of us has the power to create the life we want if… we are willing to pay the price? What do I mean, pay the price?

There is a price to pay for everything you want in life. It could be time, money, classes, commitment, practice, sacrifice… the list goes on and on. Only you know what is the price for what you want.

I personally know that the price for success is high and that sometimes it takes a long, long time to happen. And I also know that the rewards are tremendous.

So I ask you, “What would it take for you to be as successful as you want to be?”

A better job? A deeper relationship? More money?

Are you willing to pay the price, no matter what?

If you are, then you are on your way to a successful outcome. Will it always turn out exactly as you planned? No, not always. Sometimes it will turn out even better or worse but that should not be a reason to give up on your dreams. if it’s something you really want. Take the risk and be committed.

I believe you can do it – then take a step in that direction. You know if it were easy, everyone would be doing it. But it’s not. You are the one. You are the one that’s going to do it.

Start today. Start now!



Life Boxx

Alone in the dark i sit

With imagination of my future i see

Stuck in my own beliefs

Scared to face the light

Yet eager to be the ONE


Across the wall i hide

Closing my ears to hear the sounds

Sounds of encouragement

That could only waste my time

With fear to stand up

I could feel my feet tremble


Another day, another week and keep counting

Same corner i sleep, same food and same house

Checking in out and out the color of the world

With seasons that pass by

Still old i grow with same beliefs i hold.


Until i realized, i am not growing any older

Rather young in my mind and older in my body

For a good future, equal should the mind and the body be


Today i get out with new version and definition of light

Today i change the cloths and the look from my past

Today i become a new child to the world

With new ways and new beliefs

Leaving behind myself old me

Now striving to make a new LIFE

To become the only ONE i intend to be


Written by Felix Massinda

Use your time wisely…



Time is a programme that has been designed to keep counting, so is our age. For years, people have been trying to study time and train people on the proper use of time.

The truth is, everyone has or should have their own way to keep time, this comes as result of how we have designed our life. At this moment i am writing, someone else is in bed, other colour their life with memories and other are being born, so how should time be managed. What i am trying to say is, find your own ways to manage time as long as it is beneficial to you.

The clock will never stop, You have to keep chasing your dreams, time wasted for unnecessary activities will never be recovered.

Be smart, start to act today, never postpone, be accountable, be proactive and always keep your day planned.Never allow interruptions. Be Focused.

Quote of the Day.

Be Happy to do what makes you happy and not what makes them Happy.
“I was told to stand down many times by people who couldn’t do what i do; I happily ignored their opinion and i never judged them. I simply tried to understand their reasoning. What i found out has placed me where i am today. “
Never judge people for whatever they do, say or present in front of your eyes, understand them better for you to help me.
Be willing to accept where you have gone wrong and change.
By Felix Massinda.

Grow up to be the Person you want to be.

We are 7 Billion people in the world, One world with so many ambitions people make everyday. People choose their paths and make them visible for the world see and that`s when some find their role modals, people that inspire us in some ways, but again there are those whose lives will be discouraging what others are doing everyday.

We can`t avoid such people in our lives, they live with us, eat with us, play with us and even pray with us. We are all placed in the same swimming pool, we share the water and we cant avoid it.

At the same time, we have those who inspire us whose lives have also grown within the same society and succeed, they now live the dream.

With such example, it is a bullet proof that we all can grow up and become that one person who inspire others in a good way, change other people`s lives, grow up to be the person that someone would love to be in your shoes.

We all can make it if only we realize how worthy and important we are in the world, stand up for what is right, change all unnecessary need to better choices, raise the bars of your success and stop pointing fingers to someone blaming them for who you are.

The choice of whoever you want to become is in your hands alone not even in the hands of your parents, guardians or anyone around. You have a right to choose and become your own master.

We are all meant to become someone great however it depends how far you want to go.

Written by Felix Massinda

Control your Attitude

Motivational Quotes #371

An expression of favor or disfavor toward a thing or a person is what determines how life is or might become. We eventually make it in our own hands yet tend to put on someone else shoulders.

An example: When you wake up in the morning, getting ready for job unfortunately when having breakfast with your family, your son drops a cup of coffee on your shirt, what would be your reaction?

Would you shout to the child or go change it and continue with your day?

Attitude 3

The same way we react to small matters determines how we live our life, Might not be too impressing but it is changeable. Realize your attitude and how it affects your daily activities.

Attitude 1

At times our attitude might be affected by the environment we live or kind of people we live with in our life time however none of them reason might be the cause of your own attitude.

You are in position to maintain your attitude in your life, if keeping blames on someone else to be the reason of the attitude you now hold helps be calm, your life will always at stake.

Being or not being stressed depends on how you treat yourself. Reacting negatively to everything we face will not do you good at all instead will kill you slowly inside.

Learn to control your attitude towards your own life. Life is so precious when our attitudes are right.

Attitude 4

Be your own Version of Life.

A society is a large social grouping, sharing the same geographical or territory, typically subject to the same political authority and dominant cultural expectation however within the same society people have different patterns of relationships individually, not to forget even individual goals and expectations to life differ as well.

Different traits will be seen, the hard working group, the lazy group, the gossiping group, the high class and low class, optimistic and pessimistic people and many other who might or might not fall in your category of life. Despite the difference in category(ies), all these people will live close to you (together in the same society)

Now with all that happening, we tend to have behavior of copying what other people are doing and forget what we really are, we also at times forget what are our paths and we step on others` path because we are too scared to walk on ours or raise the levels of dependability.

It is time to learn of your abilities and utilize your potential, In this life, there will be no any other version of you, no matter what you do will always fall back to you.

There are many challenges every one faces in life, failure and being scared to try something new have always been on top to many youth, not being able to trust ourselves to initiate something our hearts desire.

At times we make excuses because we cannot make right decision or being counted for what we have in hands, we tend to step out of line to let others do what we could have done and yet blaming that life is too hard. That has to end today.

It`s time for youth to stand out and change ourselves before we change the society and be the change we want to see in the world, the world suffers and us in it, we are counted useless.

Let`s not count ourselves by the population rather by the changes we can all make in the societies we live in.

13 Ways to Focus on Yourself in 2014

It’s always very easy to get caught up with the many things and responsibilities you have to cater to. We are so hard bent on getting lost in the complexities that everything seems like such a hurdle. It causes stress on you and the people around you, straining relationships and testing tempers.

It’s not too late to set a resolution, so we’d like to remind you of a few simple things to be more effective and efficient in your everyday life. A new year is a chance to start again, a chance to change and improve, a chance to be better. Let’s make the best of it!

1. You’re Responsible For You.

Everyone has bad days. Everyone has things that don’t go their way. It’s okay to be upset. But don’t let that hold you back or keep you from getting back up. We all get knocked down so that we can stand up again. Challenges are always going to punch you in the face, so fight back! No one is going to do it for you.


Parental Love

That night, Sue quarreled with her mother, then stormed out of the house. While enroute, she remembered that she did not have any money in her pocket, she did not even have enough coins to make a phone call home.

At the same time, she went through a noodle shop, picking up sweet fragrance, she suddenly felt very hungry. She wished for a bowl of noodles, but she had no money!

The seller saw her standing wheat faltered before the counter and asked:

– Hey little girl, you want to eat a bowl?

– But … but I do not carry money … she shyly replied.

– Okay, I’ll treat you – the seller said – come in, I will cook you a bowl.

A few minutes later the owner brought her a steaming bowl of noodles. Ate some pieces, Sue cried.

– What is it? – He asked.

– Nothing. I am just touched by your kindness! – Sue said as she wiped her tears.

– Even a stranger on the street gives me a bowl of noodles, and my mother, after a quarrel, chased me out of the house. She is cruel!!

The seller sighed:

– Girl, why did you think so? Think again. I only gave you a bowl of noodles and you felt that way. Your mother had raised you since you were little, why were you not grateful and disobeyed your mom?

Sue was really surprised after hearing that.

“Why did I not think of that? A bowl of noodles from a stranger made me feel indebted, and my mother has raised me since I was little and I have never felt so, even a little.”

On the way home, Sue thought in her head what she would say to her mother when she arrives home: “Mom, I’m sorry. I know it is my fault, please forgive me … ”

Once up the steps, Sue saw her mother worried and tired of looking for her everywhere. Upon seeing Sue, her mother gently said: “Sue, come inside honey. You are probably very hungry? I cooked rice and prepared the meal already, come eat while it is still hot …”

Can not control any longer, Sue cried in her mom’s hands.

In life, we sometimes easy to appreciate the small actions of some people around us, but for the relatives, especially parents, we see their sacrifices as a matter of natural

Parental love and concern are the most precious gifts we have been given since birth.

Parents do not expect us to pay back for nurturing us …… but have we ever appreciated or treasure the unconditional sacrifice of our parents?

Translated from a Vietnamese story

How self-motivated are you?


Are you motivated to achieve what you really want in life? And how hard do you push yourself to get things done? Wanting to do something and motivating yourself to actually do it are two different things.

So, what’s the difference between those who never reach their goals, year after year, and those who achieve one goal after another? Often, it’s their self-motivation. Self-motivation is the force that keeps pushing us to go on – it’s our internal drive to achieve, produce, develop, and keep moving forward.

When you think you’re ready to quit something, or you just don’t know how to start, your self-motivation is what pushes you to go on. With self-motivation, you’ll learn and grow – regardless of the specific situation. That’s why it’s such a fundamental tool for reaching your goals, achieving your dreams, and succeeding, in this journey we call life.

With self Motivation helps you realize what you really want in life and really follow your dream, Many of us lose self focus along the road because we are distracted by anything fancy that comes along the way, be it friends manipulation, technology gadgets, fashion, challenges of a hard life, forced marriage, carrier difficulties, inferiority complex. All these will never be out of our life no matter how focused and motivated you are.

You need to prioritize and set your goals, step your feet where no one can ever push you out of the grid. Make your own decision and follow it with Passion. With such focus, nothing will come in your way that you can not handle.

Written by Felix Alex Massinda

The Purchase to Happiness

The talks of mourners

would praise the deceased

despite the life exemption

salvation would capture the moments

everyone remembers it all

forgetting they were never part of the journey.

Seen in a crowd so calm

people see normality of the abnormalities

when showing the colors to blindfolded child

Judging the living

forgetting they are part of life

On the line we all stand

despite the timeline we all have.

Felicity is expensive

when it includes loud colors in a day

people will turn away

to save their eyes to get sick

calm and light colors we need

for us to enjoy the view of the look

All of us praising the beauty

that appreciation brings

Priceless we all become

with yellow smiles on our faces

yet life is worthy living.

Written by Felix Massinda

What I Believe…


Its another day that God has given to us, let us rejoice and be Glad in it. Smile and make your life worthy living.


What i believe in life…..

We wake up at times putting blames on our shoulders that life isn’t going in the way we want. We make a lot of plans everyday, putting our expectations high. We forget that we can not have all we want all the time. Effort and determination is definitely needed to pull whatever destiny we believe in closer.

It is you alone who will decide how your life will be, not whatever people say will make your life miserable. It is your call to make, either to listen to their words and live to them or decide your life and make right choices.

Don`t accuse anyone to have blocked you to be wherever you wanted to be, there is no such thing as someone blocking your destiny rather you alone.

What you believe in, is what you future holds. Make up your mind and go make it work.

Its your life after all, don`t let me tell you what you to do…

“ Sit on your seat, before someone else take it away”

Written by Felix A. Massinda

Don`t let Setback Hold Down From Living.

One of the secrets to maintaining good self-esteem is having the ability to cope with life adversities. There are many aspects of life that I don’t understand; At times I don’t understand why other people suffer so much, I don’t understand why people treat others so badly, some spend their time talking about other people and make unpleasant wishes towards their life, while they are irresponsible to their own lives. Why many keep watching at your back when you fail that they have something to talk about.

Life can be crazy again it is not an easy experience to understand, it can be a happy filled with smiles and happy moments, again it can be a pain full of tears and disappointments, failure and success, honesty and dishonesty. Definition to life is very controversial.

We can all be positive, courageous and confident by looking at life with a better perspective, put our expectation where we can reach them. Life cannot be in the way we want to it to be all the time, as we cannot always get what we want we did not create life so we better make it positive and use every moments as it can never come back.

Don’t compare life with other people`s understanding, people who live with one meal a day have their own perspective differently from those who choose what to have in a day. Those who have galleries of clothes also differ with those who have sole one cloth to fit every day.

Those happy in relationships perceives the same to life differently to those who got heart broken and decided to live with it.

So its time to create your own self-esteem and your own image to life and find more meaning in life by developing the state of mind that realizes how broad the range of life experiences are. When you have frame to life how broad life experiences are, you are less likely to get knocked off balance.

You can learn a lot about yourself through life adversities, learn enough and do not allow bad experiences hold you don from living your life. Keep moving and live your life. Don’t let anything stop you.

Live your worthy self life…


Life at times becomes hell, so scared of our own initiatives, anything we want to start and make it in the list of our success becomes the obstacles to our own vision because we are scared. At last the only alternative we embrace is living under someone`s dream. Listen and do all that they tell us to do.

When you come to open your eyes, it becomes too late and spend the regretful life.

Realize your potential today and start depending on yourself. Life is to short to spend it in someone`s. go out and grab the opportunity that put smiles on your face.

"Go be hero of your life"

Written by Felix Massinda

Seek and Hide…


I am not going to sit here telling you whether you have to play the game or not, it is upon you to decide. I, myself don’t concentrate on who plays it or not, it`s more important to me to concentrate on how my life comes ahead.

Relationship is the connection between two or more people or groups and their involvement with one another, especially as regards the way they behave toward and feel about one another. Most people find happiness and comfort in other people`s presence, well that’s good if it is in one way to happiness.

There are many factors that lead to a good relationship, be it in friendship or an intimate relationship: these factors contribute enough and make the relationship healthy and steady, it`s more like irrigating your farm, if you do not do that, I turns to a desert.

We forget the value of friendship and be there because of some influence items or because you need something out of whoever you are in a relationship with. The best relationship is that which has honesty, understanding, respect, and sacrifices.

I understand, we are all human, there are ups and downs as we are not perfect but don’t take it as an excuse to play someone`s heart or feeling just because we are human.

We don’t have to hide ourselves in front of the few face, let us not be afraid of our own shadows. Be honest and true to whoever you are in a relationship with. Respect and be there when they need you as they will be when they need.

When dishonesty and disrespect are involved in a relationship, misunderstanding occurs and we become less free even when you are around your friends thinking anything can happen anytime. Don’t put yourself to that situation.

“Don’t play seek and hide game in a relationship“

Written by Felix Massinda.

Vengeance pays no bill.

Revenge is a bad terms to be used in life… do not do to others what you don’t want to be done unto you (the bible says)

Well, let`s take it from the bottom. In my life, the life I have lived around people and I myself included as a victim as well.

There came a relationship life that we all have to go through, not necessarily though but it is automatically coming our way. We come across people that touch our heart, love us, and care for us. Contentment fills the hollow inside us, at the end we believe in ourselves again. Those people who become guardian angel and safe box for our problems and happiness times. We feel secure and happiness to share every tiny details of our happiness.

On the process, we give and share all that we have with them because we believe; they are the ones to share life time with. We forget, they are not to stay, they are not maybe meant to become part of us in the world.

As we are all human however, they decided to leave and keep on searching for their treasure in the world, we become so angry and hurt because we want them for ourselves, we have made a lot of plans with them and it is just so hard to let them go on their journey.

Finally, after our intrapersonal battle becomes so loud, now we also decide to do the same to other people play with their feelings and heart because we want to revenge by breaking their hearts as others have done.

I tell you, there is no good in revenge, there is no reason to be angry at life because someone is no longer with you or has broken your heart, has stolen the treasure you have kept all your life.

There is no point to getting you in to a monster and try so hard to cope with the life they live.

Be your own, courageous, strong, opportunistic and ambitious to make your life meaningful and successful. It is the best revenge in the world rather than wasting your time on something that will not give you a trophy in the end.

Do not revenge, impact positively on others` life. Create a legacy that will live in people`s life for eternity.

Written by Felix Massinda

Leave no STONE unturned…

Piles of book to read

Every page covers a plan undone

Ahead I want to go

While pages are closed

Every new day drives its own activity

Though time is the same

Only change of activities

Makes it different

Every now and then

If everyday seem the same

Will spend all our life reading the same page

No one will open the following page

Unless you decide to turn it over

Everyday someone writes a new chapter

How many have you written?

How many books have you read?

How many headings have you come across?

Don’t put blame to habit of no reading

Put it consumed in your laziness to open one

Consider it your stagnant point if you haven’t touched a pen to living

Many stones need relocation

Many pages need editing

Many headings need replacement.

Don’t be scared people will criticize your book

That’s the only way to becoming experienced and competent

Start now reading the book

Edit headings and publish your thought to the history of your life

Be the legend to your own action

Locate all the stone un-replaced

Find valuable ones and turn them to Gold.

Life is just so amazing

If we don’t leave no stone unturned.

Written by Felix Massinda

They are watching…. i don`t care

Well, a life of a community comprises millions of characters. every one is unique in his/her own way. As people are different in their own ways, even their life vision base on their own perspectives.

There are those who plan their life and make their plan work but again there are those who try so hard to understand other people`s plan and try to work them in they are own way.

Whatever works in your plan, they will talk about it, you buy a house, you got a job, you be appraised, you marry,……. almost everything you do, they will criticize.
Don`t you worry when they do, keep your plans and life on track, if you follow whatever they say, nothing in your life will be accomplished, they have nothing to plan and work them out. Mind your own business and move on.

Written by Felix Massinda

What i know is….

For ages i spent times in school seriously studying, believing it was the only way to redeem myself from so called “Poverty”. However, it was quite challenging because the intelligence of individual was assessed by examination, test and quizes that at the end of every lesson/ topic.
By then, i had no complain az it was all the system not until i came to realize that at some point that was not quite right. I mean look around.
It is suggested that during childhood ages, the ability of creativity is very hight and that is the time to realize what someone is capable of doing and be passionate about it.
Unfortunately… we were all put in under one carriculum that recruited us all to learn the same thing while growing up, i mean people have different talents and they could be their career.
What i know is education is widening the knowledge and prepare children to face the world when they grow up. Inspite of teaching them same thing while they have different talents after ending their times in school. I suggest creativity should be treated equaly with academic inteligence.

Become Successful….

Written by Felix Massinda

Becoming successful has been the most hard work to pursue for many of us, a lot tried different ways that they think its the right way for them. Frankly speaking becoming a successful person you need to dig more than that.

The most successful men and women on earth have had to correct certain weak spots in their personalities before they began to succeed. The most outstanding of these weaknesses which stand between men and women and success are INTOLERANCE, CUPIDITY, GREED, JEALOUSY, SUSPICION, REVENGE, EGOTISM, CONCEIT, THE TENDENCY TO REAP WHERE THEY HAVE NOT SOWN, and the HABIT OF SPENDING MORE THAN THEY EARN.

So if you want to become successful, you currently know what have to be done.

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